Gay relationships are different. Many of us didn't have queer elders as role models. Some of us have faced personal and societal trauma or felt lost in a Second Queer Adolescence. We can't simply squeeze ourselves into the heteronormative structures we've been offered and expect to find happiness. Weaving theory with personal experience and case studies, this workbook gives you the tools to build a rich, deep, gay relationship. Adapted from the Bader/Pearson developmental model of relationship therapy, and suitable for those practicing both monogamy and alternative relationship structures, this guide supports you from the first flush of the honeymoon to a place of real commitment.