Many people want to help others change, but good intentions alone are not enough. Without clarity, humility, and biblical discernment, attempts to help can unintentionally confuse, discourage, or even harm the person in need. Before You Help Them equips Christians to slow down and prepare their hearts before stepping into the lives of others.This book begins with a foundational principle: effective soul care starts with the helper, not the struggler. Before offering advice, Scripture, or correction, helpers must examine their own motives, expectations, theology, and understanding of the problem. When helpers rush ahead without preparation, they often substitute assumptions for wisdom and activity for discernment.Rick Thomas provides a biblical framework for understanding when to speak, when to listen, and when to wait. Readers learn how to distinguish between sin and suffering, how to avoid fixing behaviors prematurely, and how to apply Scripture with care rather than force. The book emphasizes humility, patience, and dependence on God as essential qualities for anyone who wants to help others well.Before You Help Them is especially useful for counselors, pastors, small group leaders, parents, disciplers, and friends who regularly walk with people through hardship or change. Rather than offering formulas, it trains readers to think biblically, love wisely, and engage others with clarity and compassion.True help begins long before words are spoken. This book helps readers prepare their hearts so their care reflects both the truth and tenderness of Christ.Life Over Coffee Publishers