This book describes many of the relationships, rules, and practices involved in alternative adult lifestyles like swinging, BDSM, and polyamory.It was written to dispel some of the myths surrounding these lifestyles and give a basic primer on the true way they work.Upon reading this book, you should have a better understanding of the importance of sex in modern marriage. This book discusses the reason some people choose these lifestyles, and the benefits and challenges associated with them. It also discusses the role of communication in modern marriage and the reasons why open, honest communication benefits not only alternative relationships, but traditional ones as well.There's advice for single men and single women, and we discuss some of the benefits, challenges, and realities facing singles in the dating world, in and out of the lifestyle.The author has drawn the most experience from 8 years in the swinger lifestyle, but the lessons learned are lessons from which anyone can benefit. In this book, those life lessons are translated into a perspective of someone who is not in any way interested in becoming involved in swinging, BDSM, polyamory, or any other fetishes or kinks. Traditional couples can learn the same lessons that "lifestyle" people learn, without ever having to change their beliefs or invite someone else into their bedroom.This book is a tool for understanding the lifestyle, and is the farthest thing from a recruitment tool. There are more people becoming interested in alternative relationships every day, but no guidebook for how to go about living those relationships or overcome some of the challenges they will face. This is that guidebook.