At some point, love stopped feeling like refuge.Not because people stopped caring.Not because intimacy lost its value.But because safety could no longer be assumed.When Love Stopped Feeling Safe is a deeply grounded examination of Black intimate life, tracing how love evolved from shared survival into something that now often requires armor. It is not a dating guide, a gender war manifesto, or a call to return to the past. It is a book about understanding how we got here.Rather than arguing behavior, this book names the conditions that shaped it.Through history, sociology, and emotional truth, it explores how partnership once functioned as protection, how social and political disruption altered intimacy, and how emotional guarding became a necessary adaptation when love was no longer reliably safe. It gives language to what many feel but struggle to articulate: that much of today's relationship conflict is grief that was never named.Inside, you'll find an examination of: - How love once operated as shelter under threat- Why autonomy changed intimacy without emotional preparation- How policy, poverty, and incarceration fractured partnership- When protection became performance- Why desire began to feel safer than being known- How silence, betrayal, and guardedness reshaped connection- What separation cost us, and what we still carry forwardThis is not a book about blame.It does not offer prescriptions, quick fixes, or nostalgia.Instead, it offers clarity.It explains what happened.It names what it cost.And it invites reflection on what becomes possible when love is chosen consciously, rather than out of survival.Written for readers who are tired of shallow explanations and ready for deeper understanding, When Love Stopped Feeling Safe does not tell you how to love. It helps you understand why loving began to feel risky in the first place.The book closes with a question that lingers long after the final page: If safety returned, would we recognize it, or would we mistake it for weakness?