A step-by-step guide to having the conversations that will save your relationship.Most couples know they need to "communicate better," but nobody ever shows them how. The State of the Union is the solution. This book provides a complete, practical, and easy-to-implement system for having the crucial conversations that build a foundation of trust, intimacy, and resilience.Drawing on decades of research from relationship science and borrowing battle-tested techniques from the world of BDSM, this book gives you the specific tools and scripts you've been missing.You will learn: How to build a safe "Container" for any difficult conversation using the science of safety.The power of "Enthusiastic Consent" to transform your decision-making and rekindle desire.A simple method for defining your "Hard Limits, Soft Limits, and Desires" so your partner finally knows how to win with you.The essential skill of "Aftercare" to ensure you always find your way back to connection after a conflict.Actionable templates for a 30-Minute Weekly Check-In, a 90-Minute Quarterly Review, and an Annual Summit to keep your relationship strong and aligned for a lifetime.Stop guessing. Stop fighting. Start building. If you are ready to trade conflict for connection and build a partnership with a proven blueprint, this is the book you've been waiting for.