When your child says "No," is it defiance, or is it panic?Parenting a child with the Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) profile of autism means navigating a minefield where every request triggers intense anxiety and resistance. You know their behavior isn't defiance-it's overwhelming fear.You are not alone. This is your guide to connection.This book provides 20 engaging, low-demand social stories that give your child (and you) the tools needed to thrive. Follow Leo as he learns to transform difficult demands into safe, autonomous missions: The Secret Code: Replacing high-pressure commands with imaginative, high-status roles (like the Chief Sock Inspector).The Safe Space Reset: Giving your child a pre-planned Secret Exit Code to autonomously escape overwhelm before a meltdown.The Willow Tree: Fostering emotional flexibility and choosing to "bend" instead of "breaking" during unexpected change.Every tale is paired with Actionable Parent/Carer Notes to help you implement the strategy and understand the neurological root of PDA anxiety.To the Beautiful, Rare Orchids: Your difference is your most extraordinary strength. To the Gentle Gardeners: This book is your compass.Discover the quiet code to peace and help your child thrive-by understanding, not by compliance.- Roman Brightman